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La complexe fluctuation du désir (épisode 236)

Le désir sexuel des femmes et des hommes pourrait être assez différent de ce qui peut être imaginé.

Le désir sexuel peut se définir comme ce qui fait référence de manière générale à un intérêt pour une certaine forme d’activité sexuelle. Lorsqu’il est question de ce type de désir, un monde semble séparer les hommes et les femmes. Pour les hommes, ce désir serait constant et assez inébranlable peu importe les situations. Alors que pour les femmes, le désir sexuel pourrait grandement fluctuer et dépendre de leur état ou de ce qu’elles ressentent. Et si cette vision opposant diamétralement les sexes sur le désir sexuel était, en réalité, bien trop caricaturale ?

Chronique diffusée le 23 février 2023. L’ensemble des chroniques est accessible sur une playlist dédiée.


Pour aller plus loin :

Harris E.A. et al. (2023). Does sexual desire fluctuate more among women than men ? Archives of sexual behaviorin press : 1-18.


Un autre épisode du podcast en lien :

« La Tête Dans Le Cerveau #113 – La féminine et masculine excitation sexuelle ».


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Christophe Rodo (2023, 23 février). La complexe fluctuation du désir (épisode 236). Cerveau en argot. Consulté le 26 mai 2024, à l’adresse https://doi.org/10.58079/mkof

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