Pour réussir à être intéressant ou apprécié lors d’une conversation, le partage du temps de parole entre les personnes pourrait être bien différent de ce qui peut être imaginé.

C’est en écoutant que l’on se fait apprécier, alors que c’est en parlant que l’on arrive à intéresser. Mais derrière ces idées que l’on peut avoir sur le partage du temps de parole, existe-t-il une forme de réalité ?

Chronique diffusée le 13 avril 2023. L’ensemble des chroniques est accessible sur une playlist dédiée.

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Pour aller plus loin :

« Est-ce que vous parlez trop ? », par Sébastien Bohler. Publié sur Cerveau et psycho, le 15/09/2022. Consulté le 27/03/2023. Lien : https://www.cerveauetpsycho.fr/sd/psychologie-sociale/est-ce-que-vous-parlez-trop-24200.php.

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Un autre épisode du podcast en lien :

« La Tête Dans Le Cerveau #75 – La logorrhée féminine ».

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Source image :

Miguel Á. Padriñán – Deux ballons de message blancs (2018). https://www.pexels.com/fr-fr/photo/deux-ballons-de-message-blancs-1111368/

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